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Borderline Personality Disorder: Reading Resources


There are many excellent books written about Borderline Personality Disorder.  Here are a few that I found particularly helpful.   Please be aware these references are not listed alphabetical, but rather in order of my favorite.

by Valerie Porr, MA (2010, Oxford University Press)

Valerie Porr, MA, is the founder of the non-profit organization Treatment and Research Advancement-NationalAssociation for Personality Disorder ( TARA APD) whose mission is to increase education and research in the field of personality disorder. She has written this outstanding book on BPD. It provides a comprehensive overview of the disorder, which includes the latest research on the etiology of the disease and the latest treatment options. It is primarily written for family members with loved one with BPD who are looking for effective coping strategies and compassionate interpersonal techniques to reduce family conflict while increasing trust. I highly recommend Porr’s book.



by Randi Kreger (2008, Hazeldon)

Randi Kreger is a major author in the arena of books on BPD. She also has a comprehensive website called, Welcome to Oz, which provides an on-line group support and education. This book is a follow-up to her earlier work, Stop Walking on Eggshells. It is written for family members who are looking for direction on how to reduce the chaos that individuals with BPD often bring to relationships. Kreger provides a good overview of the disorder and then spends time defining five “power tools” to help one improve the overall quality of life when dealing with someone with BPD.



by Robert O. Friedel, MD (2004, Marlowe & Company)

Dr. Friedel also has written an excellent book for individuals with BPD. He provides a psychiatric viewpoint of the disorder. Written from a compassionate and personal perspective of the disease, Dr. Friedel includes a thorough overview of BPD, a review of the medical and therapeutic treatments available, and discusses the most effective ways to cope with BPD. He shares at the start of the book that his interest in this field resulted from his experience with his sister who struggled with this disorder. 



by Alexander L. Chapman, PhD and Kim L. Gratz, PhD (2007, New Harbinger Publications)

Drs Chapman and Gratz have written an excellent book for those who have recently been diagnosed with BPD. It provides an overview of the disorder, common treatment approaches, and effective coping strategies to deal with the more distressing symptoms of BPD. It is well-written and has a compassionate and hopeful perspective of the disorder.



by Bill Eddy,LCSW, JD, and Randi Kreger (2011, New Harbinger Publications, Inc)

Divorce is never easy, but when your spouse has BPD, it only becomes more complicated. Authors Eddy and Kreger provide a helpful book to guide divorcing individuals through this painful process.  It discusses what to expect from BPD spouses during legal action, how to find an attorney who understands the dynamics of your situation, how to take assertive control of your legal case, and how to take steps to protect yourself. This book provides a good overview of BPD and pathological narcissism with concise and clear directions about how to manage divorce under the most difficult circumstances.



by Paul Mason, MS and Randi Kreger (1998, New Harbinger Publications, Inc)

In 1996 Kreger started an on-line support group for family members of BPD sufferers.  Mason and Kreger wrote this book in 1998 to help family members and friends of BPD to understand and cope better with those with the disorder. It provides very practical, helpful suggestions on how to take your life back when dealing with someone with BPD, including how to set better interpersonal boundaries, asserting your personal and emotional needs, developing an effective safety plan to deal with BPD risky or suicidal behavior, and how to protect your children from the drama and chaos. It is an excellent resource for those who love someone with BPD.



by Jerold J. Kreisman, MD, and Hal Straus (2010, A Perigee Book)

Kreisman and Straus’s 1989 classic book has been revised with the latest research and treatments for BPD.  It begins with a broad description of BPD and then discusses how BPD differs from the other ten personality disorders identified in the DSM-IV-TR.  The mid-section of the book is geared toward those who live and love someone with BPD and outlines an effective communication system. It also provides an overview of the best current treatments available. The authors finish by addressing the big question of BPD, “Can those with BPD be cured?” This book is an excellent overview of BPD to those new to the diagnosis.

The next article will be the final one in the series of Borderline Personality Disorder.  It will address, “How does it affect children to be parented by someone with Borderline Personality Disorder?”

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