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Narcissism: Reading Resources


This fall I have been exploring the personality characteristics and interpersonal dynamics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. There have been several excellent references I have used in the writing of these articles.  Here is a list of those resources; please note that it is not alphabetical, but rather in order of my favorites.
   

Dr. Meier’s book contains a helpful questionnaire to aid in the identification of narcissistic personality tendencies. He also discusses the role narcissism plays in parenting and marital relationships.


Ms. Hotchkiss spends some time describing the development of narcissism. She suggests four helpful strategies when dealing with narcissists. There are also several chapters on special relationships, such as coping with a narcissistic boss, a substance-abusing loved one, and an aging parent, which addresses those four strategies in greater detail.


Dr. Brown’s book is helpful in identifying destructive narcissism. She has many practical suggestions on developing and maintaining healthier boundaries with parents who are demanding and controlling.


Dr. Brown addresses unique boundaries and expectations that occur in love relationships with narcissistic partners.

·       Personality Disorders (Diseases & Disorders). Marcovitz, Hal, Lucent Books, 2009.

Marcovitz provides a nice overview of personality disorders, including Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This book is written for clients and their families, and contains plenty of everyday examples of personality disorders. 

Please join me in the new year when I start the next series of articles on Borderline Personality Disorder.

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  1. Betty MillerFebruary 1, 2012 at 3:19 PM

    This is a great list of resources, thank you! My husband has narcissistic personality disorder, and although I love him so much, it can be very hard to deal with him sometimes. http://onlineceucredit.com/edu/social-work-ceus-nar offers great insight into NPD. I'm definitely going to check out some of the books listed here, as well.

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    1. Dr. Kerry McAvoyFebruary 1, 2012 at 6:12 PM

      Thank you. I hope you find the resources helpful as you journey through life with your husband.

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